My thirteen year old son makes me want to pull my hair out. He doesn’t listen, curses me out, steals. PLEASE HELP ME!

Answer:  Sadly, I get this statement and question everyday. I look at cases like this and look for the positives. Yes, there are positives. I look for the signs that show me the level of help needed for each individual. Here is an example. If a teenager is sneaking out, hiding his marijuana paraphernalia and lying about it, I see a different picture then the parent.

Let me explain. We all know what he is doing is wrong and needs correction, but the good part is, he is Read More »

Summer is here, how do we keep our 15 year old out of trouble? Identifying At-Risk Teens

Reality Check Program Q&AQuestion: Summer is here and I have a 15 year old son who will be left home alone. My husband and I both work to make ends meet. Is there any advice you can give on ways to keep my son busy, maybe learn something and stay OUT of trouble?

Answer: Great question. I am asked all the time if there is a place my son could go to stay out of trouble and maybe learn something. We do have PAL’s and Boys and Girls clubs, but they are mostly geared towards a little younger population. That answer is not from me, that answer is from kids I speak to all the time.

A good thing to get your son into is a golf program, bowling program or a boxing/martial arts program. Three very Read More »

Flakka – A growing problem parents need to know about.

Reality Check Program Question and AnswerWhat is Flakka? Flakka is new synthetic amphetamine-like stimulant that is similar to the compound contained in bath salts, also known as cathinones. It is produced from a compound known as alpha-PVP, synthetically derived and made from an amphetamine-like derivative of the drug, cathinone. In short – it is one of the most dangerous drugs out there.

Where did Flakka come from? It originated in the Middle East. Suppliers are from China, Pakistan, India and other countries from the Middle East.

flakkaWhat are the signs of Flakka use? Rage, screaming violently, superhuman strength, lose of reality, delusions, stripping off clothes (body temperature can go as high as 106 degrees) a huge let-down followed by serious depression.

How do people use it? Flakka comes in crystalline rock form, can be swallowed, snorted, injected, or used in an e- cigarette and vaped.

How long does the high last? Read More »

Unrest in Baltimore and all over – Why is it happening? By: Larry Lawton

Reality Check Program Question and AnswerWhy is unrest happening in Baltimore and all over the United States?

That is such a complex question with many answers. Here is the simplest, There is no trust in Law Enforcement….

There are over 900,000 police officer (statistic by the national law enforcement officers memorial fund) in the United States. If 5% are bad, that is 45,000 bad police officers. If 2% are bad, that is 18,000 bad cops. Whatever the number is, there is a number. It is not zero. Why isn’t the good cops policing the bad ones? It is all about leadership. Why isn’t that being addressed?

When a community sees a video of two officers beating a man and 5 watching, they wonder why ALL of the cops aren’t being fired. The latest case that comes to mind is in South Carolina. One cop shoots a man in the back, he gets charged with first degree murder, (As he should have) but the black cop that tried to cover it up should have been charged with accessory after the fact to a murder. Did he get charged? You don’t read about that. If he did, the media and police department should have told the Read More »

Question: Beyond Scared Straight is a hit TV show on A&E, what is the difference between what you do and what they do?

March 20, 2015


We get asked this question a lot, so we well explain the difference in detail.

Beyond Scared Straight was a concept that was used in the 70’s and originated in Rahway State Prison in New Jersey.  The concept was to show teenagers what prison was really like in a hard, yelling and in your face way. The Scared Straight way has been proven to be ineffective and actually increase teens getting in trouble.  When a person yells at someone they put up a wall and close their minds.  Not a good way to teach something with lasting results.  What the Reality Check Program does is Read More »